Foghladha,
I'm of two minds when reading this article. First, let me say that I agree with him in that no one should tell you how to play a game.
"It genuinely astonishes me – and not in a good way – just how many people want to convince me that my playstyle for ESO is somehow “wrong”."
I saw this today on MMORPG.com One writer spoke of how they love the challenge this game gives them. I happen to agree with the author of the article. For the most part, it's pretty easy, but bosses actually make you think and work. It's been trial and error on more than a few of them for me. The very first response was something to the effect of, "If this game is hard for you, you're playing it wrong and you have the wrong build." This drove me nuts. There is no such thing as a wrong build. Just because you (the poster, not Fog) copy and pasted the preeminent soloing build from Beta, does not mean everyone has to min/max. This game is about having the freedom to play what you want to play in an MMO. If her build challenges her with tougher fights, and she enjoys that, who is anyone to poop in her corn flakes?
The other half of my brain then speaks up and says, "Yeah, but sometimes people are playing it wrong."
Another example from MMORPG.com today, a poster keeps complaining about not having enough quests to level. Everyone starts yelling at him that he is wrong and while he is mistaken, the tone of the responses set the original poster on the defensive. No one was really offering any solid advice on how to remedy the problem, just ridiculing him. I took it upon myself to try and explain in the most non-condescending tone I could muster (sometimes the written word can convey a different and unintended tone from the spoken word.) that while this game is still a theme park, it's not your standard quest hub theme park. It is going to hold your hand from quest hub to quest hub. You need to get off the beaten path, explore, find all of the skyshards, public dungeons, hidden crafting areas, instanced dungeons, etc.
In conclusion, I think it's important that we, as players and ambassadors of the game remember, that while you may know a better way to do something in the game, be mindful, it may not be better for that player. Try to keep our enthusiasm in check and talk with, not at fellow players about the game. How we phrase our advice is just as important as what our advice is.
Just to be clear, I don't mean to preach. I have been just as guilty of this in the past, if not more so, than anyone on this forum. I'm Irish. I'm get very emotionally invested in things I like. My enthusiasm can take over and make me my own worst enemy. It's at those times I need to take a breath, step away from the keyboard, let the emotions die down and then craft my response. Oh, and if I get that way in Raid Call, don't hesitate to give me the proverbial Gibbs smack (from NCIS) across the back of my head. :)